Two years ago, I had just moved to another city. I was in bar with one colleague from work and her friend. They were fascinated with the fact that, in their eyes, I looked like Salma Hayek. I didn’t see it, but I liked where all this was going. We ended up in a tornado of sweaty limbs and dirty talking two hours later. Why did I tell you this story? Because sometimes, threesomes just happen. Other times, you have to make them happen. Here are a few steps you should follow to make it work for you. Here are some tips for threesome sex.
Step-by-Step Instructions for threesome sex
1. Find someone up for it
Some girls are extremely daring when it comes to threesome sex. Believe it or not, girls initiate a threesome more frequently than men do. If they want it, you’ll be able to recognize the signs. If you’re friends with girls that are very kinky by definition, you can simply ask whether they’d be willing to go down the 3rd lane or not. In the case you have a partner, you might want to see what they think of a threesome before you invite that other person in your bedroom.
2. Make sure you’re on the same page
When everything has been set and it “looks good on paper” for you threesome sex, it’s time to establish certain boundaries. You certainly don’t want to be kicked out of an apartment with your underwear in your hand. Talk about your preferences, establish the boundaries and reach some common ground. This will make the experience all the more fantastic.
3. Don’t have unrealistic expectations
Threesomes are seldom well-oiled machines. Yes, porn makes them look like so, but they really aren’t. There will be plenty of clumsy and embarrassing moments, but you have to roll with them. You won’t make it to the Cannes of porn movies, but you’ll definitely have a good time if you don’t mind all the less pleasant things that can occur.
4. Expect the unexpected
Planned things have an annoying tendency of not going according to the plan. If you’re having a threesome with your life partner and another person, there’s a chance jealousy will rear its ugly head during the intercourse. This can lead to some catastrophic results and that’s why it’s crucial that you’re all on board 100% with the idea. This is supposed to be a casual thing, but if feelings are hurt, you better stop it dead in its tracks.
5. Be tender with the other person
No, they’re not in a relationship with you, but as long as they’ve agreed to have sex with the two of you, you should behave nicely and give them respect. They, too, deserve foreplay and a nice overall experience, so don’t take that for granted.
Final Thoughts on Threesome Sex
As long as you do all of the above by the book, the threesome sex will be amazing. Getting into one can be tricky, but it’s not impossible. And it’s always the best when it’s a spontaneous one and you have all eagerly consented to it.
For more reading, check out this article on your first time threesome sex at Refinery29…
